Relationships....

Relationships are hard work and for most people that’s a fact. There is no fairytale ‘happily ever after’ as we are led to think. Life does not mirror fiction, well not in most cases anyway. The idea that everything is filled with roses and candyfloss the moment you get married is the main reason why so many are left feeling sad and frustrated in their marraiges. So many focus on the Wedding itself and forget that there’s a life after that. 

I had a really beautiful wedding and I thank my wife for seeing to the minutest of details. The whole ceremony and reception was wonderful and we were blessed with having over a 1000 guests. The whole time, we felt like celebrities and it was kind of nice being in the spotlight. 

Sharm and Me with my best friend Daniel and his wife Gwen on our wedding day

Dinner for 1000 guests is not easy...

The thing though, is that it only lasts for a day and then you’ve got to carry on as a couple and work on your life together. I think people often don’t realise what they’re getting into with marriage and their expectations let them down so in the end, there is nothing left but separation and divorce. I’m not an expert in marriage and I am still learning each day but my Uncle gave me the best advise which I hold onto dearly. He told me that we should never expect anything from each other because if you do so, you'll be setting yourself up for disappointment. Good advise I think, as it's worked for me.

You see, as people, we have so many expectations of what we think will happen and what we desire to happen, that we don't even share with our spouses and when these expectations are not met, it leads to frustration and disappointment which will strain any relationship. Also, communication and being totally open with each other is vital. 

I love my wife and we’ve known each other now for 15 years. She’s still my best friend and knows me better than anyone out there including myself at times. There are days when we don’t see eye to eye and that’s normal as we come from 2 different families. The key to disagreements is to calm down, give it some time and talk. Sometimes, we forget to do that most basic of things…to just talk and connect.

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